I love the debate over diets I see on Twitter every day. Do weight watchers. Buy Jenny Craig. Follow Biggest Loser. Shred with PX-90. Beach body fads. Invest in a body bugg.
In a way, it’s all a smokescreen, isn’t it? None of these programs is going to bring the permanent change on the scale we all want. Only WE can do that.
Research shows people who achieve permanent weight loss, even if they start out on a diet, leave it behind pretty quickly in order to create a unique, personal lifestyle change. They begin to change their own individual behaviors that impact their weight, instead of focusing on food.
A lifestyle change goes a lot deeper than a diet. It takes a little longer. It’s not quite so simple. But you get to keep it!!! That’s why I invested the time and effort to make permanent change back in 1996. My objective from the beginning was permanent weight loss. I wanted all along to be here, in 2010, celebrating 10 years of sustained weight loss.
Here are 5 behavior changes that have huge impact on weight loss:
1. No drive-thrus or fast food. Oh, I’ll drive-thru for coffee, but not for food. No nourishment there anyway! Fast food breeds cravings and dependence, never health. I haven’t eaten at MacDonalds since I saw the excellent movie “Super Size Me!” in 2004 and my quality of life certainly hasn’t suffered as a result. In fact, it’s only gotten better!
2. Shop every 3-4 days. With this change, I ensure a supply of fresh fruit and vegetables are always on hand. Since, the first food “adjustment” I made was adding a green salad to dinner every night, shopping more often was necessary. Within a couple months, salad at dinner was a habit and my small son would say “Where’s the green food?” when he got to the table and didn’t see salad right away. Now it has grown way beyond a habit and is just part of life. I also find it quicker and easier to shop with 3 days of meals in mind, rather than a whole week. I still shop for basics and other supplies in bulk once a month but my 2x week quick shops are for the colorful part of my diet, the alive part, the fruit and vegetables.
3. No eating in the car. Cars aren’t soothing, relaxing places to eat. They’re also not an atmosphere where you can eat consciously. After all, you’re watching traffic, navigating sharp turns, texting and refereeing fights between toddlers in the back seat! Too much non-driving activity happens in cars. Eating shouldn’t be one of them. I do still fight this one a bit. Quite often, I get caught running from client appointment to client appointment without a break. So, I keep almonds in the car and use them as my only allowable car snack. Pure protein and hunger-fighting, they are also not messy!
4. No eating in front of the TV. Like turning your car into a dining room, eating in front of the TV is unconscious eating. That means 40-50% MORE calories every time we eat distracted by televised drama, comedy or tragedy.
5. Set boundaries around food choices. Boundaries are a common dilemma when trying to change lifestyle. In fact, it’s often a lurking subconscious need for boundaries that leads many of us to set needed boundaries with our excess weight. Sometimes, being fat keeps people away. Or prevents us from “threatening” others. Or makes us invisible. For those who find it hard to set boundaries, changing your eating style can bring comment, criticism, and judgment from others. Learning to be firm but decisive as you set boundaries is a behavior change that will serve you everywhere in life, not just in weight loss. Personally, I had to let my family and good friends know that my food choices were undergoing change and that no one was allowed to question or comment on them. Not one word! Even though we may share meals with others, our food choices are personal and sacrosanct.
I’d love to hear about your behavior changes! Which ones would you like to make? Which changes have had the most impact on your weight loss?
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Well, I’ve got four out of five. 🙂 I have to admit that we do eat dinner in front of the TV sometimes. If we didn’t, we’d never keep up with our few tv addictions. And I try to minimize the impact by making sure that I put together small portions – and I don’t cook more meat/chicken/fish than a serving for each of us. If anybody wants to scarf down more, there are plenty of veggies for that. 🙂
I have to say, though, shopping has become a huge thorn in my side since I started this endeavor. Good *gravy* fresh produce and healthier proteins are *expensive*!
I’d love for you to do a post some time on managing the budget while managing weight, because I’m lucky that I can afford the larger grocery bill – a lot of folks can’t.
4 out of 5 is awesome! Good for you (and your family)! I love the idea of keeping the grocery bill affordable – did a news segment on this not long ago on our NBC(15) station here in Madison, WI. I’ll definitely do a post with some tips! Thanks for asking. It’s a big concern for a lot of people.
Those are really good rules. I’m happy to say I follow them, though my boundaries are getting a little loose… They are simple, but very challenging to achieve. I’m thinking about the length of time it took me to “master” them.
I’d add “cook your own food.” Do we really want to eat food that’s designed for shelf life rather than nutrition and taste?
Wendy – Boundaries are a very important issue in weight loss, or addiction of any type. More coming on that in future posts! Thanks for commenting.
sUCH A WONDERFUL POST!! iT WAS EXACTLY WHAT i NEEDED TO READ!!! I am a total “fad” girl BUT I know that the change must come from within!!! I always eat while driving and/or in front of the TV!!! Which means i was a fast food junkie!!!! Ive slowed up on the drive thrus and I eat with the TV off!!! I also take time to enjoy my lunch EVEN if that means that I am going to be a little late to my destination!!! Its all about putting me first this year and every year from now on!!! Its a process and I fall into my old habits at times, BUT I correct it the next meal instead of waiting until the next week!!! I have also started eating a Large salad with my dinner!!! It increases m,y veggie count as well as helps me to eat fewer calories at dinner!!! Thanks for the Post, Pat!!! Please keep sharing….AND CARING!!!
Love you Lots
Monique
Hi! Really inspiring post. 4 and 5 habits – it’s all me!))
So often healthy change is be perceived as routine drugery. I’ve found lots of success doing my healthy routines every other day and rarely 2 days in a row.,This creates a relaxing cycle for me of feeling less pressure one day and more enthusiasm about the next days commitment. I exersize every other day, do yoga every other day, meditate every other day. I always honor my food boundries, but eating a little more quanity or more fun food one day, then keeping it simple and less the next day, takes the angst out of changing my behavior around food. Thinking I have to do something everyday for the rest of my life sets me up for more feelings of failure
then of success.