“Conscious Uncoupling” a/k/a Creating a “Happy Divorce”
Just because the idea of “Conscious Uncoupling” hit the news via a celebrity divorce doesn’t mean it’s not a good idea. Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin may be making headlines with their divorce, but couples have been creating guilt-free, drama-free transitions that serve their greater good for years.
In 2005, I coached a woman who was avoiding a divorce because she didn’t want to displease friends and family. Both she and her husband had acknowledged they weren’t interested in continuing the relationship. They had deep differences and very divergent ideas of their future. (I tell her story with her permission.)
“I’m only avoiding it because I dread the reaction of everyone else. I dread the trauma. I fear we’ll be stigmatized as losers. The truth is, we’re very happy when we are apart.”
“So, what are you going to create from these facts?” I asked her.
